Why is the orgasm of women less than men?

Imagine an intense scene between a man and a woman in a scene from a favorite movie or drama. Naturally, there is a possibility of orgasm or sexual satisfaction for both of them after intercourse.

But this is not a real picture at all.

Because women have less orgasms than men after having sex with someone of the opposite sex.

This is called orgasm gap or orgasm deficiency. And scientifically the information is being stored for more than 20 years.

A study of 50,000 people found that 95 percent of men attracted to the opposite sex usually or always had an orgasm during intercourse, while only 65 percent of women did.

Research suggests that some people believe that this happens because it is biologically harder for women to orgasm. But if this were the case, then women's orgasm rates would not differ depending on the situation.

In fact, many studies have shown that women have more orgasms when they are alone than when they are with a partner.

Many believe that it is biologically difficult for women to orgasm

Women have more orgasms during intercourse with a partner than during casual or casual sex.

A study of 12,000 college students found that only 10 percent had an orgasm during their first encounter. And 68 percent had orgasms in committed relationships.

Women also have more orgasms when having sex with another woman.

One study found that 64 percent of bisexual women usually or always had an orgasm after having sex with a woman.

Why is that?

In most situations where women enjoy sexual excitement, clitoral stimulation is important.

The clitoris or clitoris is above the female vaginal opening. It is very small in shape, looks like a button, whose main function is to give pleasure to the woman during intercourse.

Most women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Because the scrotum and penis are made of the same tissue.

And both organs are full of touch-sensitive nerves and excitable tissue.

For my work I have asked thousands of women what is the most reliable way for them to orgasm.

Only four percent of women said it was through penetration, or penetration of the penis into the vagina. And 96 percent said they enjoyed orgasms during intercourse with only clitoral stimulation or simultaneous stimulation and penile penetration.

Not getting the amount of clitoral stimulation that women need is a major cause of orgasm deficiency.

And the cultural message of sexual supremacy also fuels it.

Countless movies, television shows, books, and dramas show that women only enjoy orgasm through intercourse.

Popular men's magazines also give advice on what position to have sex that will make women orgasm.

While genital stimulation is important in some positions, the main message remains that intercourse is the central and most important sexual act.

Popular men's magazines also offer advice on women's orgasms in relation to sex.

The language used in these articles, in short, reflects and at the same time perpetuates the overvaluation of sexual relations in the culture as a whole.

We use the words "sex" or "intercourse" as if they were the same thing.

I tend to dismiss clitoral stimulation before sex as "foreplay" and think it's less important than sex.

Multiple studies have shown that such messages create perceptions of what steps to take in sex. Just to prepare the woman for intercourse, first foreplay, then intercourse and the man's orgasm, and then the end.

And in this process of sex, the man's job is to give orgasm to the woman by staying for a long time and pressing hard.

Not surprisingly, studies have shown that men feel more masculine when women orgasm during sex.

And it's no wonder women fake orgasms to protect their partners' egos.

In one study, 53 to 85 percent of women admitted to faking orgasm. Some studies suggest that most women have faked an orgasm at least once in their lives.

Ways to remove deficiency:

Since cultural factors are responsible for orgasm deficiency, hopefully changing our perspective on sex and intercourse will help women improve their sexual experience.

In fact, it's important to let everyone know that women's biological capacity for orgasm is not limited.

Likewise, genital education for men and women can turn the tide of the game.

Yet such knowledge on an individual level is unlikely to stop orgasm deficiency.

According to a chapter in the Sex Therapy book, women need skills to put this knowledge into practice.

This means that women should be encouraged to learn how they want to have sex and enjoy themselves through touch.

This must be done through communication training, so that this information can be shared with the couple.

Women should feel that they have the right to pleasure and that they have the ability to have the same pleasure with and without a partner.

In that case, first of all, opposite-sex attracted couples must get over the old idea that sex ends after foreplay and intercourse.

Instead they can take turns orgasming using their mouths or hands. Alternatively, women can touch themselves with hands or vibrators during intercourse.

Research has shown that women who use vibrators have more orgasms, and since many women are concerned about how they look during sex or whether they are pleasing their partner, focusing on yourself can help.

Clitoral education can be a game changer for men and women.

But orgasm parity is far more important than quality sex. Several women have told me that once they feel empowered in the bedroom, they become more confident in the rest of their lives.

More importantly, according to one study, feeling entitled to pleasure increases a woman's ability to communicate what she wants from her partner and to protect herself sexually.

Studies have even shown that feeling entitled to sexual pleasure makes a woman more confident in having sex with ease. It also helps them use protection against pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections.

Another article written by two US health researchers on sex education and pleasure states that when young people learn about the pleasurable aspects of sex, they are less likely to manipulate or use it in harmful ways.

So if sex is taught to be pleasurable for both men and women, instead of seeing it as 'something' women do for men's pleasure, it will also help reduce levels of sexual violence.

Obviously teaching women about pleasure will do more than increase orgasm rates.